Habits - why are they so important in our lives?
Eating sweets in stressful situations, coffee every morning, an evening drink and a packet of crisps, or spending too many hours in front of the TV - you waste your time, you feel that it is leaking through your fingers, you know that you could feel better, but you still have a hard time motivating yourself to do so. changes? Nothing is lost! You can replace bad habits with good ones, all it takes is a little work.
What are habits and how are they formed?
Habits are activities or behaviors that we do without our awareness, automatically. They are shaped by exercise, and most often something gets into our blood when we repeat it often. Thus, our brain is so used to performing such activities that you do not need to focus on them.
Such a process can definitely make life easier, but it is worth considering that it is extremely easy to fall into bad habits, which may be pleasant and will not bring any effort, but will make us constantly think that it would be better or healthier to give them up . The process of developing a good habit, however, often turns out to be much more difficult. This is because we have to put more effort into it, so we know from the very beginning that it will not be easy.
Remember, however, that even if we tried hundreds of times and nothing came of it, we still do not exercise several times a week, forget to apply the cream or waste time on social networks - it's worth trying again. Failure does not mean that nothing can be done with us, nothing can be changed. Let's give ourselves a chance.
A habit can be developed during 21 days of daily performance of a given activity. Of course, it depends on personal preferences and often this time is extended to 30, and in some cases up to 45 days.
How to develop good habits?
Since we already know how many days it takes to practice a habit, at the very beginning it is worth choosing the period in which we will work on it. Let's create a list, cross the days on the calendar, check how far our goal is. The more days we mark as the ones during which we managed to achieve our goal, the more motivated we will be to go further.
Habits are characterized by being triggered by certain triggers. We get up in the morning, pass the coffee machine and involuntarily grab the mug, even if we don't really need a cup of hot drink. So if we want to overcome a habit, we must act effectively as consciously as possible and check what stimuli trigger it in us. Once we find them, it can be much easier for us to fight it.
It can also be a good step to tell someone that you are trying to develop a new habit.The more our loved ones know about it, the harder it will be for us to give up and give up. After all, there are people who wait for our result and keep their fingers crossed for us - we certainly won't want to disappoint them.
The margin of error is also important. Krakow was not built in a day, so do not assume that from today we will start eating healthy and it will always be like that. At the beginning, let's think intensely about these 21 or 30 days. This should be our first goal. Most likely, after this time, the new activity will not be a problem for us and we will do it effortlessly and even with pleasure.
When we build habits, we can easily go overboard, that is, we often want to change everything that does not suit us at the same time. Unfortunately, such activities are so laborious and require so much strength that most often an attempt to change several habits at the same time ends up failing to develop any. Here, the best way to do this is by taking small steps and dealing with only one habit at a time. Thanks to this, we will be able to focus on it as much as possible.
If we want to eliminate a habit completely, we have to help ourselves - we don't want to drink coffee? We should hide the coffee machine in a less visible place or we should not buy another package of coffee (even if it is to be "for guests only"). Do we want to eat healthier? Let's supply our refrigerator with only healthy products. We eat too much sweets? Let's hand out the sweets we keep at home, they will not tempt us. Do we want to go to the gym? Let's pack the bag the day before and put it in a visible place.
Working out habits requires systematic work. It seems obvious when we talk about the 21 days of the challenge we set before ourselves. However, it is not uncommon that the day is bad and we start to let go. But let's try to force ourselves, anyway. The satisfaction that we have succeeded will certainly improve our mood and increase our motivation. Only the systematic repetition of behaviors or activities will help build a habit.
Let's also set a reward. It will be much more fun to run if we are aware that only after 30 days of running every day we will buy our dream shoes. The reward can be anything - dinner in a good restaurant, shopping, a day spent watching your favorite series ... Certainly everyone will find something suitable for themselves.
Building habits is not easy, it requires effort and persistence. Remember, however, that if we manage to develop healthy and good habits, it will certainly be the best reward for us. If after 30 days we decide to let go, but it turns out that we involuntarily forget about coffee or put on running shoes, it is a sign that we have succeeded. Thanks to this, our life will be easier and we will feel better. It is definitely worth trying.